Messy Yet Lovely

As parents, we sometimes don’t quite get why we have to repeat certain things to kids a hundred times and they still don’t understand it. We think it is “disobedience” or they are being stubborn. Understanding children’s brain development can help parents to understand the underlying reason behind their behaviors, which will help us to support them and be more empathetic towards them. Approximately 90% of a child’s brain size is developed by age 5. But do you know when a person’s brain becomes fully developed? 25! The brain develops in a back to the front pattern, and the prefrontal cortex which is located in the frontal lobe of the brain is the last one to develop. Recent studies show that an adult thinks with the prefrontal cortex whereas teenagers think with the amygdala. WHAT DOES THE PREFRONTAL CORTEX DO FOR KIDS? The prefrontal cortex, which is situated in the…

Why do moms get angry? There are so many reasons why you could be an angry mom. And if you are a mom struggling with patience and want to be calm and kinder to your children, it’s helpful to find out what triggers anger for you. I don’t remember myself as an angry person before kids, but after having them I started losing patience easily. Little things started to irk me and I became more impatient than ever. Even my daughter started mentioning how angry I am. I started to get the wake-up calls. I started thinking about how difficult it must be for my daughters to live with an angry mom. That’s when I started digging deep to find out what triggers my anger. Though it’s impossible to control anger 24×7 as a human, we can definitely work on reducing it. I have found working on the triggers helps…

Holidays are when you can indulge in treats – sweet and savory alike. But what if you want to make healthy Christmas snacks that the kids and the whole family can eat without feeling guilty? It is so much better than eating those sugar-filled candies or treats that contain processed ingredients and also foster some healthy eating habits in kids. These healthy Christmas treats are not only for kids but also for the whole family. Come on, when did we all grow up so much that we stopped craving chocolate fudges or a gingerbread cookie? But thanks to the innovative ideas of all my fellow bloggers, I have all these wonderful ideas for healthier alternatives for Christmas-themed recipes. I don’t want you to wait anymore, let’s just dive in. I hope you got great ideas for healthy Christmas treats from this post! More healthy recipes: Homemade chocolate peanut butter…

Boys don’t cry. It is a common phrase we hear often. But are really boys wired not to cry? Is there something wrong with boys crying? It’s interesting to note that biologically, women are wired to cry more than men. Ad Vingerhoets, Professor of Clinical Psychology (Emotions and Wellbeing), Tilburg University, The Netherlands, is noted for his research on crying. He has spent 20 years studying the topic. According to him, the hormone testosterone plays a role in regulating emotional tears. Testosterone is said to inhibit tears while prolactin, a hormone found in women is said to promote crying. But another study shows that however, in babies and young children no gender differences in crying frequency are found. Frey (1985) has postulated that boys and girls start to diverge in crying with the onset of menses in girls. But according to the study it has less to do with menstruation…

Don’t we all crave for a tight hug sometimes to melt away our sorrows? Or to share the excitement we feel in our body? Hugs are magical. The simple act of hugging has been scientifically proven to have lots of benefits. It’s for the same reason numerous studies suggest the benefits of skin-to-skin touch due to which mothers are recommended to have the skin-to-skin contact immediately after birth. If you do not have the habit of hugging your kids every day, here is why we should hug our kids more. 6 REASONS WHY HUGGING YOUR CHILD IS IMPORTANT 1. HUGGING RELEASES OXYTOCIN Oxytocin, a hormone released by the pituitary gland, is often called the ‘cuddle hormone” or ‘love hormone’ for a reason. This hormone is released in our body when we hug, snuggle, or bond in any way. Oxytocin helps us feel loved and connected. Have you felt a surging…

I learned to become an organized mom after a lot of trials and errors. Being organized was not natural to me, but I learned it because of the chaos and overwhelm my unorganized life caused me. The laundry that would pile up, the book I had been wanting to read for weeks, the clutter in my bedroom, the sleep debt that was sucking out all my energy — all called for my attention. And when the stress started to grow on me, I wanted a solution. That’s when I stumbled upon bullet journaling. From then on, I learned to hold a balance between my personal life, family, and everything else. So let’s dive into our topic today: how to become an organized mum. Well, I would like to start by saying I am a work-at-home mom. So my ideas and systems of staying organized revolve around work-from-home life. But, all…

I have a sweet tooth since ….. I don’t know from when. I need my “chocolate fix” or a bite of any other desserts every once in a while. Not a great thing, I know! But these days, I am in search of recipes which are delicious and at the same time healthy too. I also want to set an example of healthy eating for my kids. That’s how I started making chia seed pudding. It is tasty, sweet, healthy, and awesome! And it takes only minutes to prepare. It is a healthy option for breakfast if you have busy hectic mornings like most moms of school-going children. WHAT ARE CHIA SEEDS AND WHAT ARE THEIR HEALTH BENEFITS? Chia seeds are one of the healthiest foods available to us. These nutrient-rich seeds contain protein, fiber, minerals, antioxidants (more than blueberries), calcium, omega-3 fatty acids, etc. Chia seeds are safe to…

We know how finding quality time is essential to maintain a strong connection in all relationships. I believe in intentional parenting and I want to fill my children’s life with as many happy memories as possible. If you are reading this post, I know you would like to build a stronger connection by doing fun-filled activities with your family. WHAT ARE FAMILY RITUALS? WHY ARE THEY IMPORTANT? Family rituals are activities that you do repeatedly on a consistent basis. Family rituals need not be anything complicated and not always involve money. For example, you might be having a ritual of morning snuggles every day or a special handshake or gestures that you do with your family that no one else knows. If you have a movie night every week, it’s another family ritual. The benefits of creating family rituals are: Stronger bond between family members: By engaging in activities of common interest,…

I will start with a disclaimer. This list of bad mom habits is not to make any mom feel bad about themselves. Because no matter how much we try, we will still make mistakes and experience setbacks in our parenting journey. The purpose of this article is to help moms see where they can improve and end suffering for the sake of our own physical and mental health. Because let’s face it. Parenting is always going to be a tough journey and we don’t want to make it tougher by clinging on to these bad habits. And as we grow, as a parent and as a human, we need to know where we lack and improve upon it. So let’s see what the most common bad mom habits are. 1. NOT TAKING CARE OF YOUR HEALTH The reason most moms do not prioritize their health is that they either don’t…

I believe it is important to thrive as a mom and not just survive. When I became a mom, and still today with older kids, I have moments when I am not in love with motherhood. But I think that happens in all kinds of relationships when you face challenges. And then there are moments when I reflect on how motherhood made me a better person. I learned better habits after becoming a mom. I stopped procrastinating. Because if I do, I won’t have time for it later. And I learned to become more organized and learned healthy habits so that I can stay fit, and also model better habits to kids. And also conquered much of my laziness that was huge in my pre-motherhood days. All these changes happened because I started prioritizing what’s important for me and decided to improve my habits. So, if you are finding it hard…