Should I spank my child or not? I see varying responses to this question in different parenting forums. While psychologists talk about the ill-effects of spanking, some people say they were spanked as a child and they believe they turned out to be okay. I think that belief leads many people to continue with spanking. I have kids aged 8 and 5 and I do not resort to spanking for disciplining them, thanks to the parenting articles and books I read early on in my parenthood journey. If you want to know whether it’s okay to spank your child, I would like you to take some time to self-evaluate. Let’s try to answer some questions here. Why does a parent want to spank their child? What makes them do it? What do parents believe will be the effect of spanking if they think spanking is effective? How does a child…

Guilt is one of the biggest emotions that can weigh us down. But it also gives us feedback on our behavior so that we can work on what needs to be corrected. Wait, why am I talking about guilt here? It is because I see it a lot in parents. The guilty feeling stems from the beliefs that “I am not a good mother”, or, “I am not doing as much as other mothers do for their kids”, etc. I experience it myself too. At the end of the day, when I look at my sleeping kids, I feel guilty about so many things and I take the resolution to work on them. As parents, the words we speak to kids are of utmost importance. The words we speak to them have a role in determining their confidence, abilities, happiness, and well-being. What I have found is, talking positively and…

Resilience means the ability to cope with misfortunes and other unplanned events in life and adapt to them. If a person has good resilience, he will be able to adjust to the events quickly, wheres a person with less resilience becomes overwhelmed by such experiences and resort to unhealthy coping mechanisms. And due to this reason, it’s important that children be taught resilience. Because, if their resilience is not developed, they become less ready to face the hardships in life. As a result of poor resilience, they can develop diseases – physical and mental – and also, develop addictions to unhealthy substances as a coping mechanism. Resilience is what helps us face unfortunate events in a positive way and rebuild our lives from the experiences we have learned. Kids can face a lot of hardships in life like a divorce between parents, moving schools or cities, physical disabilities/illnesses, bullying, abuse,…

I don’t like math. It’s hard. When my second grader told me this, I remembered my own childhood. For me, math was not a hard subject in the second grade, but it was hard when I reached high school. And then I set out to focus more on it and ended up loving the subject. In fact, later I went on to do a major in math. And my belief about math changed. So when my daughter said this, I immediately thought how a change in mindset could change her belief. And that’s the difference between a growth mindset vs fixed mindset. **This post contains affiliate links. I may receive a small commission at no extra cost to you if you make a purchase through my affiliate link** FIXED MINDSET VS GROWTH MINDSET Carol Dweck, a lead researcher on the topic defines a fixed mindset and growth mindset as, In…

I have been reading self-help books for about fifteen years. I first learned about the power of affirmations from these books. But only recently I had the breakthrough that we all use affirmations regardless of we are into personal development or not. Our kids use affirmations too. How is it that we all use affirmations? All our thoughts and internal monologues are affirmations. When struggling with a subject, does your child say that “I hate math, it is hard”? There. It is an affirmation. When struggling with parenting you might tell yourself “ I hate having to fight with my kid every day. It feels like I am a failure as a parent”. All these are affirmations. The sad thing is most of us use negative affirmations most of the time rather than positive ones. And it is not conscious but happens unconsciously. We all have our moments of self-doubt.…

Words. Words have so much power. Words can make or break a person’s entire life. If you want proof, think about the most hurtful words spoken to you as a child. Do those words still bring emotions to you? If you reflect upon the memory, you might find out that those words have had some kind of effect in your belief system and in the formation of your character. In fact, you might still be believing that ‘you are not good enough’ or ‘you are not good at _____’ because someone said that to you when you were growing up. And you didn’t want to try more because you believed those words. In the past year, I have been reading so many books about the power of our minds in shaping the reality we want in our life. The research is mindblowing and I am amazed by the effect of…

Do you want your house to look clutter-free instantly? When it comes to decluttering, there are easy and hard things to get rid of. If you want to get rid of unwanted items fast, starting with easy and small things is the best. It will immediately clear up space and you will feel better. You can do it as part of your ten-minute decluttering project, or when you come across them. Without much ado, let’s see what are some easy things to declutter your home right now. KITCHEN AND PANTRY Chipped plates and glasses Containers without lids Plastic containers that are discolored Small kitchen appliances you have used only once or twice and never liked Expired spices and condiments Expired food items Packets of chips/cookies/cereals that you opened and didn’t finish and are now past the expiry date Broken appliances Pots and pans with no handles Dishcloths, sponges, and rags that…

Have you ever decluttered your home only to find it getting cluttered again in a few months’ time? And it took you forever to do that one decluttering. And now you are procrastinating again because that’s what most of us do. I used to do that too. But now I understand that this method is ineffective. Instead of decluttering once in a while, now I focus on making decluttering a daily habit and have a list of decluttering tasks handy so that I can do daily cleaning whenever I get a few minutes here and there. And that is what this post is about. In this post, you will learn about how to keep your home clutter-free by spending only 10 minutes daily. When you go with this system, please don’t expect a decluttered home in a week. Ten-minute decluttering is a slow process, but you can keep almost all…

Chocolate and peanut butter is a heavenly combination. If you love peanut butter and can never get enough of chocolate, you must try this recipe. And the best thing? It takes only 10 minutes to make this creamy homemade chocolate peanut butter. I am a huge lover of chocolate and on some days, I just have to have chocolate. And my kids love anything with chocolate too. I use this chocolate peanut butter mainly as a spread on whole-grain bread as a school snack for kids. It gives them the protein they need and is filling too. Peanut butter has many health benefits. Approximately 26% of peanuts are protein. Therefore it is a great source of plant-based protein. In addition to protein, peanuts also contain carbohydrates, fiber, vitamins and minerals such as magnesium, potassium, and zinc. It is best to consume peanut butter in moderation due to its high-fat content.…

If you want to discipline your children without shouting, you have come to the right place. Yelling and punishment never helped anyone. It only made a miserable child more miserable. When a child misbehaves, it is due to a need not met. The child may not express it as such, but when you punish him on top of the unmet need, the disciplining goes ineffective. It also affects the relationship between you and your child. That’s where the positive parenting style benefits children. In positive parenting, the child’s needs are met with empathy, therefore the correction to his behavior is made based on the belief that caused the child to misbehave. When you are trying to discipline positively, the emphasis is put on the root cause of the behavior and the solution is made focusing on meeting his needs rather than punishing for the behavior. In other words, traditional disciplinary methods…